When you first signup for a dating profile, you may be anxious to start meeting women. It almost seems too good to be true. There are hundreds of beautiful women that you could potentially talk to, but you are aware that other men will be vying for their attention so you try to act quickly and tell them everything you want them to know. Unfortunately, doing this does not always work out in the end. A woman is already fully aware that you’re interested in her the moment she receives a message from you, so when you message her putting everything on the table, it tends to be a turnoff for her.
It Makes You Seem Desperate
Sending a woman a message on a dating profile that pretty much just summarizes the information you have written in your profile, it will not help you gain her attention. When you tell her everything that you’re looking for as well as all the flaws and good things about you, it will make them feel like you are trying to sell them something. While you do want to make yourself seem like a good catch to her, you don’t want to come on too strong. You also don’t want to solely focus on yourself. It will tell her that your needs and desires come before hers and she won’t have any interest in you.
Instead of sending her a huge block of text telling her what you want, you should begin by commenting on something she has included in her profile. Take some time to ask her questions about the information you’ve read on her profile. Do not ask her questions in which she can answer yes or no. You want to make sure that you are asking her open-ended questions. These are the type of questions that she has to reply back to in detail in order to keep the conversation going.
Get Rid of the Innuendo and Sexy Compliments
Women probably receive at least five messages a day from men talking about how big her breasts are, or how full her lips are, or how sexy her legs are. She’s more than likely heard it all before and doesn’t want to hear anymore. When you start sending her these types of messages right away, you may think that you’re flirting with her, but you’re really not. All you are doing is being ridiculous obvious with your intentions. Commenting on a woman’s physical body on a dating profile simply tells her that you want to have sex with her, especially if you don’t mention anything she’s written in her profile.
If you want to send a woman a compliment about how beautiful she is, remember to keep it classy and to also add a few questions based off the information you read in her profile so she doesn’t think you’re just out to get laid.
It’s not difficult to avoid being obvious when you’re trying to hook up with women. You just need to make sure that you’re not showing her your intentions too early on.