The reality of relationships is that more than a few of them end in a break-up. Sometimes you just go separate ways and everyone has a delicious chocolate sundae. Other times all that you can remember are flashbacks of screaming and biting and the horrible pain that comes with a bad break-up. After moments like that you’re going to want to swear off women for the rest of your life. But that’s just ridiculous. You may have ended up with the wrong woman for a while there, but that doesn’t mean that they’re all bad. When you’re ready it’s totally possible to get back out there and date after a bad ending.
Are You Ready?
First things first: are you actually ready for this? Figuring out whether you want to move on and see someone is going to be the biggest factor in all of this. If you’re trying to date a woman when you’re still hung up on the last one the only outcome will be another bad break-up. If you’re not ready then don’t do it. It’s as simple as that. When you are over your ex then you can try to date again.
What Do You Want?
So you can officially say that you’re ready to dive into the waters of beautiful women again. Good, now what do you want out of it? More often than not guys momentarily get back together with their ex’s because they can’t stand being alone. It’s a poor move, and can be avoided. If you’re just looking to bone someone then find yourself a fling. They’re fun, short term, and fairly easy to find. They’ll give you some comfort for just a little while and then you’ll be on your way. On the other hand, you might seriously be ready to be with another woman. That’s going to take some more effort. You get to go through the dating process all over again. Think of this as a new way to find your perfect woman. Think about your previous mistakes or what you didn’t like with your ex and find a way to change them this go around.
Try a New Approach
Putting yourself back on the market won’t be the same as the last time you were there. This time commit to having fun. Go out to places where you want to go, and then see if there’s a woman there who catches your fancy. While speed dating and clubs might be fun, they aren’t really going to find you a woman who’s in it for the long haul. By all means, if you’re going to just get down for a night or so then go wherever. But taking a new approach to finding your next girlfriend will give you better results. You’ll have experience from your last relationship so you should know what to avoid now.
Make a List
Make a list of all of the things you want in a woman and then try to find someone who meets all of your expectations. It’s going to seem lame to do at first, but you’ll be happy that you took the time to think this through.