If you’re a submissive that ends up hooking up with a submissive, there’s no need to fret right away. While this might end up being a situation that just doesn’t seem like it will work out, there are definitely ways to still make this a fun, exciting hookup that the two of you will enjoy. Sometimes, these kinds of incompatibilities just don’t end up working out, but if the two of you put your minds together, you’ll end up being able to make this sort of hookup enjoyable, and really be able to have the fun sex that you’ve been imagining all along.
Keep Away From BDSM Ideals
If both of you are submissives, we highly recommend that you try to keep BDSM ideals out of the bedroom. While it might be habit to try and push your partner into a Dominant role, that’s really not going to work if they’re an honest to god submissive. It’s just going to make them feel uncomfortable–and honestly, just think about how you’d feel if they tried to turn you into a Dominant for their own sake.
While you might be able to experiment with the idea of being a switch, we really don’t recommend doing that unless you’re comfortable with it. There are other methods of having fun in the sack that don’t involve BDSM, and that’s something that you need to remember while hooking up with another submissive.
Involve a Third Person
There’s always the option of finding a Dominant that wants to have a pair of submissives at their disposal, and there’s also absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to give threesome a try. A lot of people really strive for having a threesome hookup, and if it’s a Dominant looking to control two submissives at the same time, they might end up thinking that they’ve hit the jack pot.
That being said, this is easier said than done. You and your current submissive hookup will have to find someone that you’re both comfortable with, and this can take a bit of research and effort. Make sure you find someone that really suits your needs as well as your hookups, and don’t just settle for whatever Dominant you come across.
Go To a Club Together
It can be a ton of fun to actually go out to a sex club or to a BDSM dungeon with another submissive. If your hookup is up for this idea, the two of you can go out together and actually dive right into some kind of an orgy situation that you will really end up enjoying. You might be able to find a Dominant (or two!) this way that can really end up bringing out the best in both of you at the same time. This can be an exciting hookup that neither of you will ever forget, and that’s why we highly recommend giving this a shot if you and your hookup are both submissive. You never know the kinds of people you’ll run into, after all.