A lot of men have serious relationships before they start looking for hookups. If you’ve only had girlfriends before it can be hard to find a woman for a one night stand. You have a lot of things that “need” to be there before you can hookup. You need to relax and accept the fact that your hookups won’t be perfect. In fact, they’ll probably be far from it. This is okay, because your standards need to be different.
Hookups Put Sex First
Sex is important in a serious relationship, but not as important as general compatibility. Having great chemistry with someone isn’t enough to have a relationship. However, it is enough to have a hookup. Hookups are you chance to go after women who aren’t your type, but you feel a spark towards anyway. It doesn’t even matter if she’s a six as opposed to an eight. For one night, you can slum it with a woman you usually wouldn’t consider. There’s no pressure to perform with a woman you’re not going to see again anyway.
You Don’t Have to Deal with Deal Breakers
Does you hookup have a laugh that makes you want to listen to gravel in a grinder instead? That doesn’t matter. Does she chain smoke? Who cares if she does? No matter what sort of flaws your hookup has as a person, it doesn’t matter. You’re not going to be with her. Think of how freeing that is. There are so many women in the world that you think you’d be interested in if you didn’t have to live with that one flaw. With a hookup, you don’t. So try not to wince when she laughs, and stand upwind from her cigarette smoke, and know that if you can handle it for a few hours you’ll have done everything you had to do.
Your Image Doesn’t Matter
When you have a girlfriend, you know that she reflects on you. Sometimes you don’t want to date a woman because she may be fun, and flirty, but you couldn’t go out with your buddies if you were dating a woman that heavy. You don’t have to worry about things like that with a hookup. You were looking to score, so was she, and that’s the end of the story except for the locker room details. You can get with any woman who catches your eye and you don’t have to justify that to anyone.
You Can Ask for What You Really Want
The very best part of a hookup is that you don’t have to deal with her forever if she doesn’t want to do the kinks you want. If you tell a girlfriend about a kink and she freaks out, you have to live with that forever. If you tell a hookup exactly what you want and she doesn’t go for it, you can get another hookup. There’s no need to try to maintain a relationship where you’re sexually unsatisfied.